Take Care Mommy
Hello hello hello!!! What’s Up Queens? Pray you all had a blessed weekend. I spent most of the weekend alone with the kids. As you all know, I am a stay-at-home mom and I run our business from home. Daddy has been back to work for 2 weeks now and it has been an adjustment. The first week wasn’t too bad; I think the kids unknowingly granted me some grace but last week they let me know what the real deal is. Between no sleep, a newborn crying for hours at a time, a toddler wanting to constantly play, and trying to handle business, this Mama was done by Friday. But the fun wasn’t over at 430 p.m. like I had hoped. Daddy had an event to attend right after work Friday and got home around 10 p.m. Saturday, Daddy had 2 events and mommy was home again with the kids after not sleeping Thursday or Friday night.
Now listen, I’m not saying all this for you all to think that my husband doesn’t take care of the kids and he’s always gone. He is the greatest father I could have ever chosen for my babies. The reality is he is the sole breadwinner in the home and our business and his calling keeps us both busy. Now back to the story.
Saturday after his events, he came home and I was relieved to see him. He asked if I wanted to take off for a little bit to have some self time but I declined and instead we went out as a family. Now I know some of you are saying I missed my opportunity to be kid free. I chose family time because Daddy had been gone all week and we had very little family time. I knew the kids missed him and I missed seeing him with the kids. I chose to postpone mommy self care at that time for a reason.
In situations like these, I could easily just drop everything and run out the door when Daddy gets home. That gives me a little time to myself and allows me to have quiet if only for a little while. This isn’t a bad thing at all but I know I need more. Since the arrival of Moose (that’s what I call him lol), Daddy and Godparents has afforded me the opportunity to have these short me times and it has fulfilled its purpose. I’m at a point now where I need self care time. Time that is planned out, thought through, not rushed, and not limited. What this looks like for me is sleeping in late (9 a.m.), showering (and actually enjoying it), getting cute (no puke, poop, or food stains), and going out for about 5 hours to do whatever I want without worrying about hubby and the kids. I have been out for a few hour before but I was constantly checking on them because it was Daddy’s first time with both kids for more than 2 hours and the kids were on one that day. I just want to relax my wife and mommy mode just a little to take care of Chaney.
Self care is a must! It allows you to relax, clear your mind, and get rejuvenated. It is a time to assess how healthy you are you and identify the areas that need adjustments. If you don’t care for yourself, how can you care for others? I can’t give my family 100% if I’m only 40% charged. At this point, I’m working in a deficit. People say it’s better to be selfless than to be selfish. Don’t forget that while being selfless remember your self worth and take care of yourself so you are able to be selfless.
I encourage all you mommies out there to take a self care day, or two, and get rejuvenated. Find what works for you and get healthy and recharged. I pray this helped you and that you have a motivated Monday. It’s a great day to be alive; let’s make it count!